“Relationships and Sex Education (RSE) has only recently been made mandatory in schools, but that means most adults won’t have received comprehensive, inclusive sex ed — particularly sex ed that’s relevant for a digital world.”

Evans also details that the media doesn’t do a great job of highlighting the realities of physical interactions, too, often entirely avoiding the subject of pain or contraception.

One such confession: “Pain isn‘t normal. Your partner ignoring your pain [is] neither.”

It’s officially known as dyspareunia and should not be considered a normal part of sex. While it can be nothing to worry about, and merely a signal you may need to spend more time on foreplay, it can sometimes be a signal for something else — vaginal infections (yeast or bacterial vaginosis), vaginismus, atrophy or anxiety.

A recent-ish (2017) study found that painful sex is reported by a sizeable minority of women in Britain — we’re talking one in ten. And while those in their late 50s and early 60s are most likely to be affected, it’s those aged 16 to 24 who are impacted most often next.

“I’m particularly glad we’re having a conversation about painful sex and the right to pleasure because these things can be difficult to talk about,” continues Evans. “Everyone deserves a safe, healthy, enjoyable sex life if they want one.

“Painful sex has become normalised because unfortunately it’s really common — around 3 in 4 people with vaginas experience painful sex at some point in their lives.”

Another shared revelation worth noting? “Never fake an orgasm, let them know they suck at it.”

Ideally, in gentler terms than ‘you suck’. No one likes having their performance critiqued. However, from constructive criticism comes progress — and trust. Yep, discussing your sexual wants, needs, and desires has often been cited by relationship experts as one route to greater intimacy and connection outside of physical touch.

“Foreplay starts way before any sexual activity occurs.”

Straight up fact — and that doesn’t have to be sexting or sexually-charged glances. No one feels sexier than when they are seen, heard and respected. So, ask them about their day, pull them in for an unexpected cuddle and clear the kitchen if you know it’s the sort of thing that’ll inch them closer to frustration.

“A man finishing on your face is a form of disrespect.”

Arguably, this one comes down to personal preference, as some enjoy (physical) domination. However, this action has also been linked with pornography — specifically, transactional penis-in-vagina films which lack any of the realities of intercourse: performance anxiety, pain, or even verbal communications of consent.

“Giving a man your body because you love him doesn’t make him love you in return.”

Granted, this likely isn’t the sort of thing a newly-qualified teacher will cover with the help of a PowerPoint. It’s likely advice given by an older sister or experienced friend. And, arguably, having open, honest conversations about sex in school may prompt a willingness to discuss it with a trusted adult outside of that scenario, too.