And yet the subject of women disliking their mother or admitting to a toxic, negative or estranged relationship is still seen as a taboo in our society. Fine to throw shade on your toxic father (hello Meghan Markle) but women not being entirely onboard with the narrative ‘My mom is my bff!’ is a controversial subject usually reserved for the confidential confines of a therapist’s office. And while Jennette’s was clearly an extreme example, sharing her story is hopefully starting to pave the way for other women to come forward to speak about the challenges and legacies their own mothers have presented to them – and how they’ve coped.

Here, four women speak to Glamour about their own complex relationships with their mothers.

Natalie, 32, Manchester

I identify with the process of disentangling from a toxic mother. My mother, I’ve always felt, was a model of what not to become. Her religious beliefs hold her in a prison where she has never been able to fully explore or question the world and she’s always criticised my life choices because she simply doesn’t understand them. Living by the code of her own religious and old-fashioned parents, I was criticised for not cooking, for drinking alcohol, for having pre-marital sex, and not seeing marriage as the ultimate purpose of a woman’s existence. Even though I understand she was bred to hold these up as the standard of what a woman is, I have to put distance between us so these standards don’t rub off on me via osmosis and limit my capacity to define my own personhood as I mature or laden me with unuseful guilt. Even though I love her, I find her exhausting. I really do love her, I just need her to be far away. But I’ve always felt very judged by people when I’m frank and say that the best thing for my mood is to avoid her, because of course she sacrificed her body and her time to give birth to me. But how long must I repay that debt?

Sarah, 41, Leeds

My mother and I don’t speak and that is the best thing for me in terms of protecting my mental health and my own interpersonal relationships. Throughout my life, she has been a narcissistic and manipulative presence both to me, my siblings and my father. It has caused a lot of pain, chaos and trauma over the years and I have had a lot of therapy to deal with it as an adult. It has contributed to my own mental health issues including disordered eating. I have deliberately pursued a career that has taken me abroad over the years, far away from her and now that I am a mother myself I have so far chosen to not include her in my child’s life, which I know is hard for her, but also she has to know it is a direct consequence of her behaviour. Of course this is a deeply sad aspect of my life and it has certainly not been easy, but I know I can honestly say that I am happier without her in it. I have always been very honest with people about my Mum and I have watched how it has made some people uncomfortable, but having no contact is the best thing for me right now.