Most sex toys — perhaps aside from the humble bullet vibrator — can be a little intimidating, especially if your exposure to date has been through unrealistic portrayals in porn, fiction films or walking past larger-than-life displays in sex toy shops. But they can actually be incredibly discreet and mindful. Whether you’re looking to wind down after a long day, destress following a passive-aggressive Zoom call, or try something new with a partner, (the best) bullet vibrators can get you there… and back again.

Sometimes, vulva owners assume bullet vibrators are less effective, thinking only clit suckers or G-spot vibrators can truly hit the spot. But with the right vibrator and technique, bullet vibes can pack a serious punch.

But first, let’s talk benefits. Regular use of sex toys — such as bullets, but also clit vibrators, rampant rabbits and magic wand vibrators — during masturbation, solo sex, and partnered play can lead to better sleep, increased body confidence, reduced stress, and a stronger sense of sexual agency.

So, here’s everything you need to know about how to use a bullet vibrator, with tips from industry experts and a selection of our favourites.

Meet the experts:

What are the benefits of using bullet vibrators?

So, why do bullet vibrators deserve a place in your top drawer? They’re often considered to be one of the best sex toys for beginners for anyone starting to explore solo or partnered pleasure. More discreet and less intimidating than larger toys, they’re lightweight, waterproof and small enough to tuck away in your carry-on.

In other words, bullet vibrators are an ideal travel companion. Perfect for winding down after exploring the bustling streets of Paris or spicing things up with a partner on a romantic Greek getaway. No one will blink at the We-Vibe Tango X Lipstick Vibrator tucked in your bag or resting on your nightstand.

“Bullet vibrators are small but super versatile — they’re proof that big sensations come in small packages,” says Lovehoney’s sex and relationships expert, Annabelle Knight. “It’s one of the simpler toys that’s great for external stimulation like the clitoris, nipples, or anywhere else that feels good for you.”

How to use a bullet vibrator on your own:

1. Go slow

Denise Kratzenberg, co-founder of CHEEX, a platform for female-focused sexual entertainment and education, suggests slowing down before diving in: “Take the time to really get to know your body and what you enjoy. Before reaching for a toy, reflect on the kinds of sensations that turn you on. Whether that’s internal or external stimulation, steady pressure, pulsing patterns, or even temperature play.”

2. Experiment

“When using a bullet vibrator, experiment with different positions and ways of holding or angling it against your body,” says Kratzenberg. “Solo play is the perfect time for this — it’s all about you and your pleasure. Orgasms start in the brain, so creating the right mental setting is key.”

3. Circle back — and back again

“Don’t just hold the vibrator in one place — try circling around the clitoral hood or tracing a figure-of-eight,” suggests Samantha Marshall, head of brand at Smile Makers Collection. “Pay attention to the types of strokes that feel good, and don’t neglect the rest of the vulva.

“The inner and outer labia can become especially sensitive during arousal, and exploring those areas can really enhance the experience.”

4. Try layering

Marshall also recommends trying the layering technique if direct contact feels too intense — using the vibrator over underwear or fabric can help soften the sensation. A more delicate bullet vibrator, such as The Whisperer, may also help with that.

5. Lube it up

Knight also recommends adding lube to the tip of your bullet for an even more pleasurable experience: “It makes everything feel smoother and more intense and really helps you make the most of the vibrations.”