How can you get more matches on dating apps without paying?

All the best dating apps will constantly nudge you to buy more likes, boost your profile, gift people ‘roses,’ and more. But honestly? You can get by just fine without all that jazz.

“The best thing you can do is be clear, confident, and proactive,” Pineiro recommends. “Use a current photo, write a few lines that say exactly what you’re looking for, and don’t shy away from sending the first message. You don’t need to wait for an algorithm’s permission.”

As someone who constantly worries I’m accidentally catfishing people, my advice is simple: use flattering photos that actually look like you. Don’t rely on that one magical shot you’ll never be able to recreate.

Koch adds: “Keep your bio real. A few lines that show your personality will do more for you than any carefully curated ‘perfect’ profile ever could.”

How can you turn free matches into dates?

“Once you match, I suggest skipping the simple ‘hey’ or ‘hi’ opener,” Koch advises. “Start a real conversation: comment on something in their profile and ask a genuine question. Thoughtful openers don’t just get responses — they get good responses.”

I couldn’t agree more. Honestly, a plain ‘hey’ doesn’t thrill me. I’m most intrigued when someone directly references something in my profile — it proves they did their mandatory reading and makes the conversation flow naturally.

And please, never ask, “So, what’s your experience with Hinge/Bumble/Tinder been like?” I mean… I’m still here, so…?

“Skip the generic opener,” Pineiro adds. “Say something direct, specific, or even a little bold. People respond to personality and intention, not mystery. The more you show up with clarity and authenticity, the faster your chat grid fills.”

When do you know it’s time to start paying for dating apps/additional features?

First things first: don’t be too quick to assume you’ve exhausted all the free options on a dating app. “If you’re being overly specific with age ranges or keeping your radius too tight, you’re limiting yourself unnecessarily,” Koch explains. “Widen things just a bit, and you might be surprised who you connect with.”

In my case, that might mean extending my radius past five miles… We’ll see.

If you’re serious about finding a long-term relationship and the best free dating apps aren’t cutting it, it might be worth investing in a subscription app like eHarmony. At least there, you know people are genuinely serious about dating. And before you commit to paying, always test the free version and do your research.