Simple doesn’t have to mean basic — it can still have multiple settings or dual features. Just don’t let yourself get intimidated by all the bells and whistles.
3. Quality matters
Always prioritise toys made from body-safe, non-porous materials like medical-grade silicone, and pair them with a compatible lube. After use, clean with pH-neutral soap and water, and store it somewhere hygienic — bonus points for a dedicated bag like this Pleasure Case from the Smile Makers Collection.
4. Understand what a vibrator is designed to do.
Kratzenberg recommends beginners start with a clitoral vibrator or bullet vibrator: “They’re compact, easy to use, and great for getting familiar with vibration intensity and patterns.”
Want more power and control? Try a wand vibrator like the Pulse Queen. Prefer gentle, rhythmic stimulation? A clit sucker like the Venus Glow could be your new BFF — especially if oral tends to get you there fastest.
5. Toys that multitask.
They’re pricier, yes, but often worth it, especially if you’re unsure what you like. Dual-function toys can cover more bases and save you from buyer’s remorse. A great example is LELO’s newest launch, known as the SWITCH Double-Sided Wand Vibrator. While one side gently massages the clitoris with its ribbed textures, the other side targets the G-spot with deep vibrations.
6. Get some inspiration.
No one’s born knowing how to masturbate, and we really don’t talk about it enough. If you feel comfortable, chat with a trusted friend. If not, the internet is brimming with safe, shame-free resources: CHEEX offers educational content, while FrolicMe focuses on ethical porn filmed for the female gaze.
7. When in doubt, lube it up.
Lube isn’t just for penetrative sex. It can make exploring a new vibrator feel smoother, sexier, and less intimidating. “Whether you’re playing with a vibrator externally or internally, lube is your best friend,” says Tanner. “It enhances sensation, protects sensitive tissue, and reduces friction. Try warming it in your hand before applying it directly to your toy or body.” Just make sure to consider whether you need a water-based lube — best when using vibrators — or a longer-lasting silicone alternative.
8. Don’t be afraid to travel.
Vibrators aren’t just for genitals: “Many vibrators can also be used on your nipples, perineum, or any erogenous zone,” adds Tanner. Longer massage wand vibrators, like the SMART WAND, can double as full-body massagers and even help regulate your nervous system.
9. Take your time.
Five minutes in and not feeling fireworks? Totally normal. “It can take time to adjust to a new sensation and find the right angle or intensity,” says Tanner. “Focus on awakening the senses, bringing awareness to your erogenous zones, and staying curious about what feels good.”
10. Aftercare.
Solo or partnered, aftercare counts. In this case? Cleaning your toys. Use a toy cleaner designed for your vibrator’s material, store it dry and away from sunlight (as much as you want to display that baby on your bookshelf), and avoid sharing unless you’ve sterilised it properly or used protection like condoms.
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