Meghan Markle’s time within the monarchy was short-lived and has fueled long-standing debates. Experts now suggest that her departure ultimately came down to two things she wanted but couldn’t fully have: control and prominence. Her marriage to Prince Harry placed her at the heart of the monarchy. Commentators argue that rigid hierarchy and strict protocol made it difficult for her to establish her role on her own terms or to rise to the level of influence she may have expected within the royal family.

Former BBC royal correspondent Jennie Bond put forward this view. As reported by OK!, she said, “I have always held the view that Meghan failed to understand that she would never be the top dog in the Royal Family…or even the deputy top dog.” The expert added, “There’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be in complete control and charge of your life. There’s nothing wrong with seeking the limelight. It’s just that the Royal Family was the wrong vehicle for her ambitions.” According to Bond, Markle’s desire for autonomy and visibility fundamentally clashed with the institution.

Some commentators, on the other hand, have questioned whether Markle even intended to stay in the U.K. permanently. Royal author Phil Dampier once told The Sun, “I personally think she never intended to stay in the royal family. I’m afraid that blaming members of the royal family and courtiers and how they were treated is just an excuse for what they have done and to justify what they’ve done.” His comments suggest the Duchess’s ambitions always extended beyond the confines of royal duty. 

After she and Harry decided to step back from royal duties, Markle has not shied away from discussing how it was challenging to abide by royal protocol. Former royal butler Grant Harrold supported this perspective and revealed to The Daily Express US, “Meghan saying that she didn’t understand royal etiquette makes sense because she is from America, so she wasn’t expected to know how to do things. She may have watched the royal family, but she wouldn’t know the etiquette and rules.” While comparing her and Kate Middleton, he added that the latter was already aware of royal protocols before marrying Prince William. Harrold said, “Meghan and Harry were quicker, and there wasn’t the same amount of time.”

Harrold claimed he observed early signs of Markle’s struggle, noting that she was adjusting to her job. He revealed, “I did notice that when Meghan was attending events with Harry, you could see Harry giving her pointers and advice, so she was learning on the job.” Taken together, these expert commentaries suggest Meghan’s desire for personal control and a leading role, i.e., the two things incompatible with royal life, ultimately caused issues and held her from fully settling within the monarchy. It paved the way from their dramatic exit to build their personal brand and start a fresh chapter in the United States.