What are the benefits of using couples’ sex toys?

Remember: introducing a sex toy isn’t a sign that you or your partner are dissatisfied — in fact, it’s usually the opposite. Using toys together lets you explore each other’s pleasure points, discover new sensations, and can even spark open conversations about what really turns you both on, boosting intimacy and satisfaction.

“Sex toys do things our bodies cannot — pulse, vibrate, and hit spots we can’t always reach,” explains sexologist Wood. “These sensations can help many people experience more consistent, frequent orgasms, which your partner will absolutely love to see and be a part of.”

Speaking of orgasms, the best sex toys for couples can also help bridge the orgasm gap. It’s no secret that cisgender straight men tend to climax more often than people with vaginas. According to YouGov, 30% of British women say they orgasm every time they have sex — compared to 61% of British men.

So, how do you level the playing field? Many couples’ toys deliver intense clitoral stimulation — crucial when only 18.4% of women report that penetration alone is enough to orgasm.

“When choosing a sex toy with your partner, think about what you want to get out of it,” Wood adds. “If penetration alone doesn’t usually get you there, a bullet vibrator is perfect — it can be used to stimulate the clitoris while still enjoying penetrative sex with a partner.”

How can you find a toy that meets both partners’ needs?

“The most important starting point is communication,” explains Annabelle Knight, Sex and Relationships expert at Lovehoney. “Each partner should feel comfortable talking about what they’re curious about, what they enjoy, and any boundaries they have. From there, look for toys designed with couples in mind — ones that offer shared stimulation, flexible use, and opportunities for both partners to stay engaged.”

“Approaching it as something you’re choosing together, rather than something for just one person, ensures it feels inclusive, exciting, and mutually beneficial,” Knight continues.

For sexologist King, it’s about taking stock of your current sex life. “What feels fulfilling, and what would you like to explore or improve? Maybe you’re confident with genital-focused or penetrative sex, but want to broaden your sexual menu. Instead of just a traditional sex toy, try massage candles, oils, a feather tickler, or restraints like wrist ties and a blindfold — expanding into full-body pleasure can completely change the game.”

Should you split the cost of a couple’s sex toy?

This is such a tough question, yet one we hear a lot. “People may do this in many cases, especially if it’s something you’re both planning to use and enjoy together,” Knight explains. “Splitting the cost can make the purchase feel like a shared investment in your relationship and your intimacy, rather than something that one person is solely responsible for. It can also help both partners feel equally involved and excited about the experience.

“That said, every couple approaches money differently, and there’s no single ‘right’ way to handle it,” Knight continues. “What matters most is that the conversation feels open, fair and comfortable for both of you. Whether one partner treats it as a gift or you decide to split the cost, the goal is for the decision to feel natural and mutually agreed.”

How do you suggest a sex toy to your partner?

“When suggesting a sex toy, timing and tone really matter,” Knight says. “Choose a relaxed, pressure-free moment, not when either of you feels stressed or distracted. Frame it as something positive and exciting rather than as a solution to a problem. You might mention that you’ve read about something interesting, seen a product that sparked your curiosity, or that you’d love to explore something new together.”

“Keeping the conversation open, light and focused on connection helps your partner feel included rather than put on the spot,” continues Knight. “Emphasise that it’s about enhancing what you already enjoy together, not replacing anything. When both people feel heard, respected and involved in the decision, the idea of trying a toy becomes something to look forward to rather than something that feels awkward or intimidating.”