In recent years, overly phallic sex toys have, thankfully, been replaced by discreet vibrators. Arguably the nation’s favourite style? Clitoral suction toys. But then comes the question of how to use a clit sucker, because it’s not always as simple as sitting it on top of your super-sensitive spot.

First, a bit of context. Suction vibrators are the ‘All Too Well (10-Minute Version)’ of the toy drawer: transformative, indulgent, and once you try one, there’s no going back. A prime example: The Satisfyer Pro, which is basically the Taylor Swift of the sex toy world. Yep, everyone name-drops it, and while it’s a solid toy, the real headline isn’t just that product — it’s the clit sucker revolution as a whole.

Sorry, bullet vibrators and magic wands, we’re firmly in our clit sucker era — and for good reason. Masturbation has proven benefits, from boosting mood to improving sleep. And to really make the most of that sweet suction, we asked sex educators for their expert tips on how to use your new clit sucker for maximum O. Read on for our extensive how-to guide, and answers to all your common FAQs.

Why is everyone so obsessed with clit suckers?

Clit suckers have become one of the most popular sex toys on the market, and for good reason. Many vulva owners report reaching orgasm in just a minute or two before going back for round two… or three.

According to Samantha Marshall, Head of Brand at Smile Makers Collection, their rise comes down to two key factors: Their laser-sharp focus on clitoral stimulation, which the majority of vulva owners need to orgasm, and their efficiency in delivering it. “Some even report squirting for the first time,” she notes.

But how do they work? “These toys aim to mimic oral sex through contactless ‘sonic wave technology’,” says the founder of ethical erotica platform FrolicMe, Anna Richards. “In essence, they make a sucking motion, almost like a blowjob for your clitoris.”

“This isn’t something easily replicated by a partner — though some say having the clit sucked on during oral sex feels similar,” continues Richards. It’s also why many couples incorporate them into partnered play, considering they provide that extra, almost-unattainable touch.

Aesthetics have also played a role in their appeal. “They’re one of the first toys for women or people with vaginas that move away from phallic shapes, and they really champion non-penetrative pleasure, whether solo or with a partner,” says sexologist and Brand and Partnerships Lead at Pure dating app, Avril Louise Clarke.

The result? Clit suckers feel less intimidating and a lot more inviting. Plus, with options like Nancy’s Lem Clitoral Massager or the matching Avo Clitoral Massager, they’re practically designed to look cute on your bedside table.

How to use a clit sucker toy solo:

Yep, we asked industry experts for their top tips when masturbating with this tech in the mix…

1. Start low, go slow.

“Focus on the sensations, be present, and give yourself permission to enjoy the journey rather than rushing straight to the finish line,” says Marshall. Teasing and edging — bringing yourself close to orgasm, then backing off — can also make the final release all the more powerful. Richards also recommends beginning on the lowest setting to avoid overwhelming yourself.

2. Size matters.

When it comes to clit suckers, it’s not about length or girth — it’s about fit. “No two clitorises are the same,” explains Clarke. Look for a mouthpiece that matches your anatomy for the most comfortable, effective seal. The SILA Cruise offers an extra-large mouth, encompassing more of the vulva, while the smaller mouth of the SONA Cruise pinpoints pleasure right on the tip.

3. O marks the spot.

Finding your sweet spot may take a little experimentation. “Place the toy over your clitoris and adjust it slightly until you find the perfect position,” recommends Richards. Even tiny shifts can completely change the sensation.